Talking to Your Child About Their Mental Health
Talking to your child about their mental health can feel awkward and uncomfortable, but is a conversation that all parents should be having with their children. Discussing youth child’s mental health should be seen no different than discussing food allergies, an injured ankle, or diabetes. Each of these are medical problems, including mental health. By having frequent, open and honest conversations about mental health, parents and children can learn together to better face challenges and reduce the stigma that surrounds mental health.
Talk about mental health regularly. Even when your child is not having any obvious issues, it is still helpful to have frequent emotional “check-ins” starting early in life. If your child views this as a routine part of family life, they may feel more comfortable coming to you when challenges happen.
Listen to them. While you may not understand what is upsetting your child, it is important to create a safe place where your child can openly and honestly share with you. You do not need to have the answers. Simply listen and do not judge so your child understands you are there to provide support.
Be sure they know this is not their fault. Many children believe that mental health conditions are their fault. It is important for children to understand that mental health conditions are common and not a sign that something is wrong with them as a person.
Include the family. Mental health should not be treated as a secret, which only adds to the negative perception. Your child may feel more secure if family members know about it, can talk with them about it, and accept it - just as they would accept any other medical problem. This openness can be very helpful in preventing feelings of shame or isolation.
Don’t be afraid to talk about suicide. Many parents are nervous to ask their child if they have any thoughts of suicide or self-harm, believing that having this conversation may give their child harmful ideas. This is a false belief. Research has proven that bringing up the topic of suicide will not cause suicidal behavior. Actually, asking about suicide can be a relief for people of all ages and provide them an opening to talk about their feelings.
Get a professional’s opinion. If you are concerned, consider talking to your pediatrician or other healthcare provider about whether they think your child could benefit from seeing a mental health professional. This is a great way to learn about resources and programs in your community.
Talking with your child about their mental health may not be easy at first, but it is important as a parent, grandparent, caregiver, or friend. Take the first step and have that first conversation, however awkward it may seem. Mental health conversations will become easier with time and may make a huge difference in the life of your child.
